I would consider myself a ‘girly girl’. I like shopping, dresses, skirts, pink, sparkles, and other typically feminine things. My hair is long and I like to have it in pretty styles every now and again. Yet there’s one thing I wonder; why should this be seen as un-feminist by so many people?
Often, people tend to think of feminists as quite physically strong and tomboyish, not feminine. Even other people who would call themselves feminists look down upon people who like makeup, jewelry and other things deemed ‘feminine’. But is this really a feminist thing to do?
I think – and it may just be me here – that some people take tackling gender roles (one of the things that feminism focuses on) the wrong way. Instead of tackling them to make them less expected, some people seem to think that we need to flip them around entirely, meaning that women who would prefer to be a typical stay-at-home-mum, or who like to wear makeup and dresses, can be frowned upon, and told that they’re “not real feminists”.
This isn’t right.
Females are putting other females down, simply because they want to do what they want, but isn’t feminism supposed to be about letting women and girls be free to choose what they want to do in life? Shouldn’t we embrace all the differences between us females, and support others’ choices, even if they differ from this ‘feminist ideal’ that seems to exist in some people’s minds?
Back to the whole feminine thing: I don’t wear makeup and/ or dresses (and other things) because it’s expected of me, or because I want to impress anyone, contrary to what some people might think. I like these things! I enjoy doing my makeup, even if it doesn’t always go right first try. I like pretty things because I just do and I CAN! What I wear is my choice (well, my mum often helps me decide, but that’s just because I’m bad at decisions) so why should I be ashamed of that?
So please, wear whatever you like, like whatever you want to, and above all, don’t shame others for what they like!
Thanks for reading! I’d love to know what you think, so feel free to let me know in the comments! You can also let me know your thoughts on the topic if you wish!